We talk about boundaries a lot here. It is a particular area of struggle for many.

 

Even when we begin to put in place our own boundaries during healing we often do not see the boundaries others have put in place. Like there are scales covering our eyes.

 

When I see someone getting healthier I will always see them honoring well my boundaries.

 

I have personal boundaries and we have boundaries in place in our meetings and classes.

 

We have time boundaries and we have boundaries regarding the type of space we’re running in any given moment.

 

Boundaries are there for a reason. They are a tool of safety for all involved as well as a means of getting the job done that God requires of us.

 

Boundaries are important to have in place and also important to yield to.

 

Whether or not someone can adhere to my boundaries tells me something.

 

It’s like going to college. A lot of the surviving of higher level educations is learning how to follow instructions.

 

It is the same with boundaries.

 

If we breeze through other’s boundaries, eventually that will have to be addressed. It is not God honoring or people honoring.

 

It is a sign of a deeper problem.

 

Maybe we still need to be seen too much.

Maybe we simply want what we want and choose to ignore another’s boundaries.

Maybe we’re operating in fear or anxiety.

Maybe we simply don’t yet honor well.

Maybe we still have underlying toxic behaviors.

Maybe we have an unclean motive in the heart at work.

 

Heart motives are important to keep in check.

 

We often think we’re healthier than we really are and boundary breaking is a “tale-tell” sign that we need more work.

 

Sometimes we use Christian language to justify our unhealthy behaviors.

 

I can look on my past and see where I failed in this area. Codependency will do that. My inner pain covered up my ability to see other’s boundaries and my need to be seen trumped healthy behaviors.

 

I also wanted at times what I wanted and didn’t consider anyone else in that moment. It was a type of rebellion and not becoming as a follower of Jesus.

 

I didn’t know what I didn’t know back then.

 

Do you honor boundaries others have put in place or do you push their boundaries until it has to be addressed?

 

Looking within ourselves is good and necessary so God can create in us a clean heart.

 

He needs to clear out all unclean motives and agendas that are driving us. He needs to teach us how to honor others and follow instructions.

 

He is a God of order, not chaos.

When confusion begins I know there is another spirit at work.

 

Sometimes it’s not even a spirit, but the human and stubborn will. We can all fall prey to this and have to be very intentional in our behaviors.

 

Let us ask God to keep us in check regarding boundaries.

 

While it is very important to implement healthy boundaries, it is just as important to honor the boundaries of others.