As we have spent much time now with women in need of healing, we have seen a common root issue in most going thru the healing process. Women need to learn how to set healthy boundaries. This is especially true of women with a mercy heart.  The enemy is very wise and he knows he can use the kindness of a woman in a way that does not allow them to stand for righteousness by causing them to believe “anything goes” in the name of grace. This is not so with Jesus. From abusive marriages, spiritual abuse, to traumatic scenarios, the enemy has seen much success in using scripture to place women back in bondage.

 

We have found great help in Henry Cloud’s book, “Boundaries.” If you have not read it (it is a fairly old book) you should. You might catch a glimpse of why you do what you do. Pain causes us to react in ways that place us in a cycle of behaviors. Many behaviors that must broken with truth and the rightly dividing of scripture.

A woman is not, in any case, required to live in an abusive situation. To the contrary, when we sin against one another, repentance is required. Because the church, in some areas, has placed women under “unjust submission” they believe it is God’s will for their lives. Yet, Christ came to give us abundant life lived out for Him and His Kingdom. Abuse is completely outside the image of God. There is no darkness in Him. So, in essence, abuse is from the kingdom of darkness and does not originate with God who is light, pure, and a good Father. Many have become confused about the nature of Christ because we have misunderstood how to handle abuse within the body of Christ.

Once we see areas where we have been deceived by the enemy, we are able to take back the ground Satan has stolen. Remember, Christ uses all things for good. Nothing you have had to endure cancels your destiny through Christ Jesus. It merely becomes part of your story.

I pray you see Christ for who He really is and that you would ask Him to untangle any deceptions of the enemy in your life. For when the Son sets you free….you are free, free indeed.

Love Much,

Shelly Wilson